January is gone but my blues are still with me. It’s familiar territory…this seasonal depression. I know I can’t run from it. I have to ride it out and for the past 25 years of recognizing it and trying to understand it, I know it will subside and I’ll feel lighthearted again. Of course, I’ve got some added circumstances that make it more pronounced and difficult, but such is the ebb and flow of life.
We all go in and out of difficulties, sorrows, transitions, joys, contentment, etc. What matters is the constant in our daily existence. What goodness is consistently there, day by day regardless of mood, weather, or trial? I believe God is constant though our perception of God is not. As Paul so aptly wrote in 1 Corinthians, “For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.”
My perspective changes as I learn and grow, and unfortunately sometimes follows how I feel. If my spirit feels dark, I often feel abandoned and worthless. Yet my feelings are not my true story. They are merely a narrative that I’ve been telling myself for decades, not the truth of me.
That’s why we’re so surprised when we hear each other’s narratives. All of us have some negative theme that comes around again and again, though we show the outside world a completely different story. We mask ourselves in order to fit in and prove our worth, yet our masks make us feel like imposters and actually reiterate the negative theme we’re trying to forget. I am not only who I present, who I seem to be. The truth of me is a mix of what is seen and unseen, shared and hidden. That’s why self reflection is so imperative on our human journey. The hidden parts of ourselves are often buried deep, far away from our own awareness. We hide our true faces even from ourselves, thinking they’re too ugly to behold, yet in scripture we are told “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” Song of Songs 4:7
God’s eyes see us as we are, not as we pretend to be, and we are called beautiful. Yet God knows we haven’t the eyes to see the full beauty within. We keep trying to mask our inadequacies, our vulnerabilities, our weaknesses, yet it is in these very things where God reveals blinding glory and breathtaking beauty.
In closing, I’m reminded of this quote in CS Lewis’s book Till We Have Faces, “When the time comes to you at which you will be forced at last to utter the speech which has lain at the center of your soul for years, which you have, all that time, idiot-like, been saying over and over, you’ll not talk about the joy of words. I saw well why the gods do not speak to us openly, nor let us answer. Till that word can be dug out of us, why should they hear the babble that we think we mean? How can they meet us face to face till we have faces?”